SEPARATION AGREEMENT SURVIVAL GUIDE
b. What costs will be covered? The usual ones are room and board, books, tuition and fees.
Some parents also agree on a modest monthly allowance for spending money for the child,
or for travel to and from home, or for summer expenses.
c. What are the expenditure limits? Few parents want to agree to finance a college education
for a child at any college or university. The cost of some private colleges and universities
would bankrupt the average parent. Consider putting a ceiling or "cap" on the college
expenses, such as by specifying that the maximum shall be "the then-prevailing rate for
in-state tuition at N.C. State University" or some other nearby public institution. Such a
provision is fair to everyone and does not force either parent to go broke financing a college
education.
d. What other limits should be set? For example, some agreements state that the child must
attend an accredited institution, in pursuit of a generally recognized undergraduate degree,
on a full-time basis, while maintaining at least a "C" average.
e. What part of the college costs will each parent pay? Be sure to set some specific percent or
amount so that it will be enforceable in court if you need help in the future. Clauses that
provide for the other side to pay “a reasonable share of the child’s college expenses” are
worthless since they don’t say exactly what the other parent has to pay and a judge is not
going to guess what the parents meant by this language. When in doubt, spell it out! Even
if you just divide the college costs 50-50 between both parents, it’s still better than a vague
and unenforceable clause.
16. SHOULD WE PROVIDE FOR ALIMONY IN OUR SEPARATION AGREEMENT?
A. Alimony is spousal support -- it is money paid by one spouse to the other to help with food, shelter,
transportation, clothing and other living expenses. It is not the same thing as child support. If the two of
you have agreed on some measure of temporary or permanent alimony, you should definitely put that in the
separation agreement. Such a provision might state, for example, that the husband shall pay the wife
alimony of $500.00 per month until he or she dies or until she remarries, or it could state that the wife shall
pay the husband alimony of $100 per month for a total of four years, at which time it will terminate forever.
These are just examples -- your attorney can advise you about the applicability of alimony in your particular
case.
17. IS ALIMONY TAX-DEDUCTIBLE?
A. If the agreement is drafted properly, alimony can be deductible for the payor and therefore taxable to the
recipient. In order to be deductible by the payor, it must end at the recipient's death. It is also acceptable to
make the alimony nontaxable to the recipient if it is nondeductible for the payor. This is a particularly
important term, and it should be spelled out clearly in the agreement how alimony payments will be treated
for tax purposes.
18. WHEN DOES ALIMONY END?
A. Alimony usually ends are at the death of either party or the remarriage of the payee/recipient (usually
the wife). Sometimes clients have a provision added to the alimony terms in a separation agreement that