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Louisiana Department of Justice
What are some of the special incidents and effects of a covenant marriage?
The law provides that the spouses to a covenant marriage owe to each other the same
legal obligations as couples in a “standard” marriage, but it also provides, in addition,
some special rules. Essentially, these special rules include the following: Spouses owe
each other love and respect and they commit to a community of living. Spouses are
bound to live together, unless there is a good cause otherwise. The spouses determine
the family residence by mutual consent, according to their requirements and those of
the family. The management of the household shall be the right and the duty of both
spouses. Spouses by mutual consent after collaboration should make decisions relating
to family life in the best interest of the family.
An extremely important and special incident and effect of a covenant marriage is that
each of the parties to the covenant marriage has voluntarily declared, “If we
experience marital difficulties, we commit ourselves to take all reasonable efforts to
preserve our marriage, including marriage counseling”. According to legal
commentaries, this declaration is a legally binding obligation to which they have
stipulated. It should be noted that not only formal marital counseling, if needed, be
undertaken by the spouses in times of marital difficulties but also all other reasonable
steps as well be observed. These steps could include a myriad of other religious and
non-religious assistance to the preservation of the marriage. Whether any one step or
effort is “reasonable” will depend on all the circumstances. If the circumstances
warrant, counseling programs may be undertaken for each spouse separately, or
separate counseling programs be given to each spouse separately.
How does a covenant marriage strengthen marriage through new and
different divorce/separation laws?
As one legal commentary explained, “the covenant marriage legislation represents the
first time, as a general trend, in two hundred years in any Western country that
divorce has become more difficult rather than easier”. In a “standard” marriage,
eventhough there are two spouses to a marriage, one of those acting alone can
effectively abandon the other spouse with a divorce in six (6) months or twelve (12)
months if there are minor children; even when the other spouse would like to try
reasonable efforts, including marital counseling, to preserve their marriage. In a
covenant marriage, both spouses have voluntarily stipulated that when marital
difficulties arise, they will make all reasonable efforts to preserve the marriage,
including marital counseling. The law provides that the counseling or other such
reasonable steps taken by the spouses to preserve the marriage, as required by the
Declaration of Intent signed by the spouses, shall occur once the parties experience
marital difficulties and, further, that if the spouses begin living separate and apart, the
counseling or other intervention should continue until the rendition of a judgment of
divorce.