Guiding Questions
Tips for talking to children about hair
Do they accurately represent different styles, textures, and colors of hair?
Are they stereotypical?
What hair textures and styles are missing or invisible? How are you able to supplement those
conversations when reading books with children?
Even if the book doesn’t directly talk about hair, do the illustrations show examples of natural hair
that can help children see themselves and their hair represented in the book?
Whose perspective is most prominent?
Is there a villain? If so, who or what is it, and why are they/why is it “bad?”
Is there a hero? How do we know this person is the hero?
Does the story feel real/true to life? Are important elements or considerations included?
Do characters speak to each other? If so, are the interactions positive?
Does the plot affirm some and disparage others?
Are terms like nappy used in a way that’s positive and affirming?
If the book uses a term, such as pelo malo, does it describe the context of that term, as well as
push back against a negative term?
Does the book appropriate a hairstyle that has historical grounding in another culture or
community without recognizing or discussing the history?
Does the text refer to hair in comparison to animals or other dehumanizing metaphors?Is the
language celebratory and affirming of hair?
Does the text refer to an aspect of community or history?
When selecting children’s books on hair, does your collection incorporate or include different
ethnicities? For example, are Afro-Latinx communities, indigenous communities, or communities
that cover their hair represented in the text?
Are there discussions about the different hair textures? It is important to highlight the diversity of
textures and styles (i.e. there are different types of natural hair, such as 3a or 4c) and note that
one person can have more than one texture.
Check the illustrations
Analyze the story line
Examine the language
Consider how it affects children’s self and social identity
Make sure to stay away from language about all hair being the same. This takes away from the rich
diversity of many types of hair. Highlight the beauty and uniqueness of different types of hair.
Do share facts about the similarities of hair, such as hair comes in different colors and textures, hair
has a root and shaft, and hair is something that can be styled in many ways to look different.
Don’t use language that fetishizes hair or describes hair as being “exotic.”
Ask young children questions about what they love about their own hair and affirm the positive
qualities of their hair.
Answer questions with honesty and genuineness. By preschool, children notice differences among
others such as skin color, hair texture, and eye color. Young children may hide questions and may
believe that talking about difference is wrong if you shy away from answering.
*adapted from Louise Derman-Sparks’ Guide for Selecting Anti-Bias Children’s Books