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utilize them. Limit cell phone usage by anyone in the vehicle as it can be another
distraction that can lead up to sensory overload which can be pretty unpleasant
trapped inside a car. Try to make frequent rest stops for bathroom breaks as well as
walking a bit. Sometimes, those with FTD do not communicate or even understand what
is making them uncomfortable. Something as simple as shoes feeling tight due to feet
swelling from sitting too long can cause distress and add to the overload.
If it is going to be a long trip, don’t be afraid to ask the doctor for a medication to help
make the trip more comfortable. Sedatives are not usually good with FTD and some are
on the contra-indicated list, but they are sometimes useful on a short term basis. Oh, and
I am saying for the one with FTD, not for the driver!
Air travel can sometimes be a challenge as well. Checking your baggage may help
rather than trying to carry everything on. Having your hands full of bags and trying to
keep track of everyone can be difficult. Most airports offer attendants with wheel chairs.
You can request them as soon as you enter the airport or exit the plane if you have not
arranged for them ahead of time. They are free of charge, but tips are greatly
appreciated and will go a long way toward the attendant going above and beyond.
You hear horror stories about the TSA. There is one great service that they offer, however.
You can call the TSA before your trip. They will take all the information and will arrange
for an agent to meet you at either the airport entrance or the entrance to the TSA
checkpoint. This varies from airport to airport. Often the actual agent who will meet you
calls you ahead of time, then has you call them when you arrive so they can meet up
with you. They get you to the front of the line at the checkpoint and can walk you
through if necessary. I had an agent stand right by me at the checkpoint station and tell
me each step of the way what I needed to do. This was things like, to put my feet on the
footprints of the scanner and to put my hands up in the air. He also helped me get my
baggage scanned, telling me what to get out and show them. One even helped me put
my shoes back on after they were scanned. This is all a free service, it is called TSA Cares.
No tips for the agent, just for the wheel chair attendant.
As I said, a tip to the attendant can go a long way (though not to the TSA agent). We
had one take us through TSA with the agent, then take us to a restaurant for breakfast,
leave us there and picked us up at a decided time and took us to our gate.
Most hotels offer handicapped rooms. Often, they have a clearer traffic pattern to make
it safer, larger and more accessible bathrooms with additional safety features in the
shower. If staying in a hotel, try to take some familiar items with you. If you are traveling
by car and space allows, bring their own pillow to help them be comfortable. I have a
silk scarf that I like to hold onto when I start getting stressed or when I am trying to sleep.
Things like this are easy to stuff into a suitcase. You might want to pack night lights,
especially for in the bathroom. Try to keep things quiet and calm in the room if the room
is being shared. Bring snacks and bottled water or juice to the room. Dehydration can be
a problem on airplane, in cars and in hotel rooms.
If you are staying with friends or a family member, there are things you can do ahead of
time. Explain to them what to expect from the person with FTD. Ask if there is a quiet
place in their home where they can go if they start to become overwhelmed. Explain
that simpler is better, not too many people, no loud music, etc. Offer to make
concessions. If there are children in the home or anyone who would be put off by the